Stepping into Change

Have you ever experienced pain gradually becoming part of your life, something that you get used to, and tend to ignore while you get on with more “important” things in life?

I have.

Before I write any more, I must share that I benefit from a LOT of privilege. I have a safe and comfortable home, income security, and a loving family. All these things make it easier for me to choose Joy and Gratitude as my daily mantra.

Because I choose to do work that I enjoy and sometimes get too busy to look after myself properly, I tend to ignore health issues. Expecting them to resolve themselves and go away.

Now I’m going to share a personal health story as a metaphor for being in the wrong job, and how you can change that!

Sometime last Fall, I started experiencing pain in my right foot, I ignored it for a while, I’m not sure how long, because I could still walk, although some days were better than others.

Finally in November, I contacted my family doctor (yes, I know this is a privilege) and told her about my foot. She gave me a referral for a podiatry assessment on November 6, 2024.

It took me two months to contact a local clinic and book an appointment. Then it took another ten days before I followed the doctor’s instructions and purchased the insoles and shoes he recommended. He told me that even following his directions it could take three months or more for my foot to heal.

This story illustrates that you can get stuck in an uncomfortable work situation, in a job that you don’t like, with people who do not treat you well, and put up with it, because things are good enough. You may stick with that job because it provides income security, which can feel more important than your own wellbeing.

The thing is when you’re in a workplace that doesn’t appreciate you, where you do not receive support in the areas you are not good at, and most of your work involves things you do not enjoy doing, then that can wear you down.

Being in the wrong workplace can be mentally and physically draining.

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Changing your circumstances takes time. However, there is hope. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

1. Admit that your current work is not the right long term fit for you

2. Decide that you are willing to make changes

3. Figure out what you love to do, are good at, and wish you were well paid to do

4. Research employers to find those who share your values

5. Only apply for positions with that short list of employers

6. Be authentically yourself in your resume, and during interviews, trust me this will pay off in the long run

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KEEP your current job, unless it is unsafe for you! Why? Because it is easier to get a job when you are employed.

If all this seems too overwhelming to do on your own, then seek help from a mentor, coach, or Thought Partner (like me!).

I suggest you start with some of the free resources out there, including government funded job developers.

Why start with free help? Because this gives you the opportunity to figure out what type of person is the right fit for you, without costing you any of your hard-earned money. And often, these folks can help you find a better job.

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If you’re in a financial position to pay for help discovering the right opportunities for you, then:

1. Explore what kind of person you’d like to work with

2. Check out their website, and presence on social media

3. Find someone whose values align with yours

4. Reach out for a free “try before you buy” type of interaction to figure out if you’re a good fit

5. Once you find that good fit sign a contract outlining how you’ll work together

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Having an accountability partner whether you pay the person or not, can help you achieve your goals.

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It may take a few months to find that better job, like it will take a few months for my foot to heal. However, the eventual relief from pain is worth the effort!

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PS: You may feel like creating your own ideal job by starting a business. However, that can be daunting as there is no guarantee that you’ll have income security as an entrepreneur.

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